PYHO: The Single Life

I probably could have come up with a more awesome title than that but ya can't beat plain and simple right?

This week I am linking my post up with Shell for "Pour Your Heat Out" on her amazing blog, Things I Can't Say.



We all read the bloggers who are married or engaged or involved in some way with a significant other. It's fun to hear about their cute love stories and see the pictures that make us go awwwww.

But what about the single people?

In 5 years, I had been single a total of 2 months. I spent almost 3 years in one relationship and 2 in another. So when that second relationship ended I felt that panic of "But I don't even know how to be single anymore." It was an awful feeling and in all honesty, I felt lost. I mean the last time I was full on single was when I was 17 and I am a pretty different person at 22.

I've discovered it's easy to blame yourself. I mean I've spent a lot of time doing that. My friends are getting married and engaged and settling down and here I am back at square one. Something is wrong with me for sure. But that isn't the case.

My friend Alayna said something to me that made it click:

"You and I both know that you deserve only the best. And if the best person for you right now is yourself then that's okay!"

That's exactly the case. The best person for me right now is myself and I'm starting to embrace that. It's easy to hold on to the past and the what ifs but there's a strength that comes out of embracing the time you have with yourself and making it a way to fall in love with yourself.

When I was 17, the world was a different place for me and I was a different girl and now it's time to get to know "me" again. The grown up version. It's time to fall in love with myself again.

Why should I let myself sit and pine over not having a guy in my life when my perfect match stares at me in the mirror every morning?

There is no lack of love in my life. I have a beautiful life with great friends and family. I am a happy person and that all that matters. Just because I don't have a man, that doesn't mean I'm lonely or that my life has any less love than someone who is married.

I love reading people's love stories. But I have a love story too-- The story of how I fell in love with the best person for me, myself.

And just for fun, here's some empowering stuff for all you single folks out there:

Single-Natasha Bedingfield

There ya go, a whole post about being single and I didn't mention or refer to "Single Ladies" once... oops.

Happy Wednesday everyone!