Boy, How Quickly the Future Comes Along

More and more lately, I am discovering how one minute you're saying "Well, 5 years from now..." and then in the next, 5 years has come and gone and you're planning for 10 years.
I mean it seems like just yesterday I was looking at colleges, planning on where to go and what to major in. Now here I am, 4 years later, only 3 semesters left until I walk across that stage and receive that degree. And now, not only am I planning the rest of my college careers, but now I'm looking into Graduate schools. Even as I write this, I get butterflies in my stomach from the mixture or excitement, fear, anxiety, and overall joy.
I even get that same feeling watching my closest friends and family as they move along in life. Like my baby brother is graduating high school. Or my former roommate/one of my best friends is engaged and wedding planning! Or even, one of my other closest friends is pregnant with her second child! And I know it sounds weird, but I am just filled with so much happiness for all these people in my life that I love.
It just reminds me why life is something to love and cherish. It's looking back and seeing how far you have come and how far you still have to go; how many great memories there are to experience, and lessons there are to be learned. It's seeing that glow on a best friend's face as she walks past a wedding shop knowing that'll be her in the future. Or seeing another best friend prepare for a precious baby boy. It's all of these things.
I have learned a lot of hard lessons this past year and throughout my life. But one of the biggest is that happiness really does stem from seeing the people around you getting what they deserve from life. It really makes all the bad days worth it all.
Time goes by so fast. in a second it seems you go from deciding what to major in to planning for graduate school, fretting over who to go to prom with to marrying the love of your life, or even watching a family expand from one child to two.
It's so cliche but I'm gonna say it. Life is a beautiful thing, and through all the triumphs, heartache, dissapointment, and bad days, I am so happy to be standing where I am preparing to move forward in my life as well as watching the people I love most being blessed with all they were meant to have.
it's truly a great feeling. <3

A Video For Domestic Violence Awareness

Well, here is a video I made for DVA. Basically it's me singing a song and talking about domestic violence. Not the greatest but it's something.

http://www.youtube.com/get_player

Domestic Violence Awareness

October is Domestic Violence Awareness month, a cause that means a lot to me and that I try to advocate. Here are some definitions and statistics:

IMPORTANT DEFINITIONS:

• Domestic Violence can be physical, sexual, emotional, economic, or psychological. It includes behaviors that intimidate, manipulate, humiliate, isolate, frighten, terrorize, coerce, blame, hurt, injure, or wound someone.
• Physical Abuse: Any form of pysical violence along with denying a partner or children medical care or forcing alcohol or drug use.
• Sexual Abuse: Sexual contact or behavior without consent
• Emotional Abuse: Undermining an individual's sense of self-worth and/or self-esteem. Includes constant criticism, diminishing one's abilities, name-calling, or damaging one's relationship with children
• Economic abuse: Controlling over finances, withholding access to money, etc
• Psychological abuse: Causing fear by intimidation, threatening physical harm to self, partner, or children, destruction of property, and forcing isolation.

IMPORTANT STATISTICS:

• 1 in 4 woman have experienced domestic violence
• Between 600,000 and 6 million woman and 100,000 and 6 million men are victims each year
• Women ages 20-24 are at greatest risk
• Woman of ALL races are equally vulnerable
• 3 out 0f 4 Americans personally know someone who is or has been a victim.
• On average, more than 3 women and 1 man are murdered in America every year as a result of DV
• 50% of men who frequently assaulted their wives, also abused their children
• 3.3 to 10 million children witness some form of DV annually

**Domestic Violence is not a joke and should not be kept in the dark. Don't keep silent about it. Speak out. ***

Source of Definitions and Statistics- http://www.evefoundation.org/

Spreading That Positivity

"A man is but a product of his thoughts what he thinks, he becomes." ~Ghandi

"There are always flowers for those who want to see them." ~Henri Matisse

"Wherever you go, no matter what the weather, always bring your own sunshine." ~Anthony D'Angelo

R.I.P Miss Negative

So, the girl who wrote that post yesterday? I beat her to death so she no longer exists.
Okay, so I'm not that extreme but little miss negative pants is gone. Why? Let me explain...
One of the goals I set for my 21st birthday was to rid my life of all toxic people. Miss Negative IS a toxic person so it is time to say good bye to her for good.
Seriously, Miss negative is that bitch that is always talking crap about you behind your back underlying everything you try to accomplish. Why should I let that big bitch win?
It's time to take Miss Negative behind the playground and beat her ass for all the crap she's been talking about me. So that's it. Miss Negative is out of my life.
Because I CAN do anything I set my mind to. I am awesome no matter who sees it or doesn't see it. I am my own motivator. I will get that A, lost that stubborn pound, work my butt off to get that job and so on.
I am not the little wallflower avoiding the world anymore. I LIVE IN THIS WORLD TOO therefore I have a say in how I let it affect me.
So goodbye Miss Negative, and hello (re)newed state of mind!

Yep, It's a Downer Post

Ugh, I'm sorry this is going to be a downer post but sometimes it's just how ya feel right?

I went from things going pretty okay, to good, to now right back to shitty. Story of my LIFE. It's like anytime things start to get remotely better, they fall back into crap again. Frankly, I am getting tired of it. Like seriously, who did I piss off for everything to always be working against me? What did I do because I swear I'll fix it. I have put all my energy into making my life right again and it all just keeps working against me.

Like, for instance:

• I finally get my laptop fixed so I can get ahead on all my papers and stay in contact with friends and family better. Then, something else on it breaks.
• I apply for A BUNCH of jobs. Finally get hired at one, yet I haven't got the call to start yet. WTH
• I have been working my ass off to lose the weight I want. Working out 4 times a week, buying ONLY healthy food. I lost 10 pounds and then I go on break because it's too hard to watch my calories at home (yet I still cautiously ate and chose healthy things) and here I am, having gained the 10 lbs back.
• And everyone in my life is getting married, having kids, and such and such. and here I am just struggling to keep my head above the water

IT'S NOT FAIR! I work my ass off for EVERY LITTLE THING only to have it unravel everytime I turn around while everything is just handed to other people (non-friends who don't even deserve it). At first I thought it was my attitude, so I started being more positive about things but all that's done has set me up for a harder let down.

I am so tired of working for nothing. It's exhausting.

A BIG Decision

So. since I've become a junior and college, I have been thinking a lot about where I want to go with all of this. In a year and a half I'll have a bachelor's in Writing with minors in Psychology and History. Okaay... so then what?
We all know that American economy is still a scary subject right now. And honestly, it scares me to death that I will work my butt off for this degree and end up working at McDonald's (I have heard some horror stories, let me tell you). And over halfway through my degree and time moving so fast, I don't feel ready to throw myself into that world of jobs and settling into life. I feel like there is still so much for me to see. I want to study abroad for a summer, enhance my writing credentials, and really perfect my craft.
So, I have decided to embark on the Graduate school journey. It's a scary thought but it would only be two more years. And a Master's degree is the highest I want to go (because really, unless you want to be a professor, who needs a doctorate in Writing?) I feel like with a Graduate's degree, so many more options can be opened for me and that extra time to perfect my skill will be so beneficial in the end. It'll also gove me more time to get a summer abroad somewhere before I have to worry about a job and all the stresses that go with it.
I'm still weighing my pros and cons but at this point in time, I am really considering it.

Fall Break!

Hey all, as you know I went home to St. Louis for Fall Break to visit my family (first time in a year) so here are some pictures:

my brother James & I

James ready for his senior homecoming

He looks so grown, jeez

So, yep. I didn't take many pictures but I did have a good time seeing my mom, brother, and my grandpa. My dad, well, he was enjoyable to be around for most of my break. He had a bad night while I was there (as expected) but not like crazy bad like I've seen him get.
Overall, it was a nice weekend.

WARNING: VENT AHEAD

So, lately I have been doing well as far as setting goals but what is life without a need to vent?
And boy, do I feel a vent coming along.
It started this morning with weighing myself and not being the weight I thought I would be when I stepped on the scale this morning. It happens. So, I looked at why it may not have happened and made a list of new changes. Doesn't sound so bad, huh?
Then I go into my Shakespeare midterm ready to kick butt and COMPLETELY FAIL. My entire essay was crap. The whole thing. And what sucks is it's 1 of only 3 grades that make up the class. I swear I wanted to burst into tears walking out of there.
I AM SO TIRED OF BEING MY OWN WORST ENEMY! I hate it. I am the only one holding myself back and I don't know how the hell I am doing it. Yes, I am probably being too hard on myself. (which is why I am calling this a vent and not making it an "official" blog entry).
I am just so sick and tired of messing myself up. I could have studied harder for that test. But what was I doing? I don't even know. You would think after losing my scholarship this would start grounding me.
But nooo. It's like I aim to sabotage myself no matter what I do. That's how I feel. I feel as if I am at war with myself which I kind of am.
Yeah, I am hard on myself. But how can I not be after letting myself dig this hole I am in. I just want to punch myself in the face sometimes for being so stupid.Yes, we all need lessons in our life to learn the hard way. Ok, BUT I HAVE FRIGGIN LEARNED IT so I wish the world would stop picking on me.
I feel so out of control sometimes even when I am. I just hate it. Maybe it's the atmosphere I am in?
I wouldn't be in it if ya know, one of thousands of jobs I have applied for would call me in for an interview or HIRE ME. How the hell can I get an apartment for me and James if no one will even friggin hire me.
I am just so frustrated right now. And I know when I sit down, breathe and think this all through I will figure it out.
The mistake I made last year was giving up and letting life control ME. THAT IS NOT HAPPENING AGAIN.
I am not going to give up. This is my friggin life and I am in control of it. ME. NOT MY INSECURITIES. NOT MY PAST. NOT SCHOOL. NOT MONEY OR DUMB JOBS. ME ME ME.
So, how about the world SHUT THE HELL UP for just one second so I can handle my shit. Thank you.

Hello October!

Happy October everyone!
I am very excited because October is one of my favorite months (December is the other). I've decided to give a small little update about what's going on. So here it goes:

• I have lost 10 lbs!!!
• James (my "baby" brother") has decided to move in with me after he graduates high school in June. He's decided to take some classes at the tech school here in town or he may take the year off. He hasn't quite decided yet. He has decided, however, that within the next few years he is going to enlist in the National Guard. That scares me some, but I want my brother to do whatever makes him happy. I'll be a proud big sis either way.
• I applied for a part-time job as a teaching assistant at a Pre-school so I am definitely hoping I get the job
• Apartment hunting is very time consuming lol but it's necessary since I need a big enough place for myself, brother, and dog.
• School is going well. It's about a month and a half into the semester and I'm doing pretty well.
• LIFE IS GOOD!

So yeah, things have been going pretty great. I get to visit my family in St. Louis next weekend, which is loooonnng overdue so I probably won't blog until then. I hope everyone is doing well!

p.s GO CARDS!! (they made the playoffs! So, let's get a repeat of '06)